What's Love Got to Do With It?

I feel  like I must post my feelings on love.  I see so many people getting married and almost as many people getting divorced.  Why?  What happened?  Not only were expectations not met, but they forgot what love is about.  Love is putting the needs of the other person before your own.  Love is making sure the other person is happy when sometimes you would rather have different results.  By putting your significant other first and treating them the way they deserve to be treated, a longevity factor goes up on the relationship.

Now I'm not expert.  In fact I have several marriages under my belt.  I let stars get in my eyes before evaluating the entire situation with his family each time.  I didn't watch how their dad's treated their mothers.  Big hint:  if your future father-in-law treats your future mother-in-law poorly, chances are you will be treated as she was treated.  RUN! Run as fast as you can in the other direction!  You will wind up miserable and wondering what you did wrong.

Watch for anger issues too.  If the person you think you would like to be married to flares up over little things while you are courting, what will it be like when you are married?  It will only get much worse.  I married a man who I suspected to have PTSD.  He also couldn't handle stress of any kind.  It got much worse with age.  He is still undiagnosed by the VA but a local doctor diagnosed him almost 10 years ago.  She wanted to know why the VA wasn't dealing with it.  Good question.  They have denied his claim when he tried to get help for it.

Anyway, I felt like I had to share this today for some reason.  I don't know why, but it has been gnawing at me since very early this morning.  I hope someone gains something from it.